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With a Little Help from My Girlfriends

Several weeks ago I received a message from my precious friend Donna to ask if she could throw me a baby shower in Georgia. First of all…let me just stop right here so I can confess something. Thoughtfulness is probably not my super power.

If you listen closely, you can hear my family violently nodding their heads in agreement.

I’m forgetful. I’m self-centered by nature. I’m a procrastinator. And I can be selfish with my time.

If there was a support group for people like me, NO ONE would show up for the meetings.

I’m always amazed by people like Donna—people who spend hours out of their day thinking of others and planning parties, showers, and events to bless them. God has given me so many people in my life who possess that gift of thoughtfulness: my husband, my mom, and too many others to name here. Sometimes I sit back and wonder why they all choose to put up with me. But then I remember that thoughtful people enjoy helping a hot mess like me because I so desperately need it. And they almost always do it because they have a God-given abundance of joy in their own hearts that spills over into the lives of others.

Can I get an amen?

Of course I was honored and thrilled to have Donna throw me a shower. But we quickly decided that a traditional, Southern baby shower (cake, punch, pin the safety pin on the cloth diaper, etc.) wasn’t the direction we wanted to take. One reason is that Brian and I already have all the baby accoutrements necessary to make our lives comfortable. And I know showers aren’t all about the gifts, but…who are we kidding? They’re all about the gifts.

The second reason we opted for a less traditional shower is because it would torture my poor mother who would have to endure one gender-neutral gift after another. Likewise, it would render her embroidery machine impotent, and that is just a huge waste of a party if not one gift has the baby’s name scripted out in gender-specific thread.

So, Donna and I decided that a girl’s night out at my favorite Mexican restaurant in my hometown was the way to go. (Don’t worry, she and my mom have already planned a more formal, Southern “Sip and See” for after the baby arrives.) We invited my childhood church friends, my maid of honor/college roommate, and my two sisters-in-law.

Here is a photo of me with my brother’s wonderful wife, Stacie, before our girl’s night out. Stacie is due with their second child (a boy!) just a few weeks after me.

With a Little Help from My Girlfriends

There were 9 of us in total (my girlfriend Lauren had to leave before we took this photo).

With a Little Help from My Girlfriends

Pictured from left are my sister-in-law (Brian’s sister) Misty, Amee, Donna, my protruding beach ball, me, my maid of honor Heather, Rita, Bekah, and Stacie.

These 8 women—all Christians, all wives, all mothers, and all HILARIOUS—gave me one of the greatest gifts you can give a woman who is weeks away (or maybe moments away) from having her 3rd child. They gave me their time. They took hours away from their husbands and their own kids to bless me with their friendship. They made me laugh until my belly shook like a bowl full of baby. We discussed all of life’s most interesting topics like childbirth, alcohol, gambling, our husbands, and s-e-x.

My apologies to anyone at Las Flores two Saturdays ago who tried to enjoy a Chimichanga while 9 noisy women discussed c-sections and VBACs.

(Don’t Google VBAC, dad.)

These sweet sisters in Christ blessed me with laughter, a wonderful meal, an Amazon gift card, and a basket full of baby goodies. And though it was more casual than a traditional shower, Donna (a busy mother of 3 herself) still took the time to add her thoughtful touches like party favors for the guests and personalized, gender-neutral petit fours.

With a Little Help from My Girlfriends

Thoughtfulness is most certainly Donna’s superpower. 

I’ve often said that next to our salvation, our church(es), and our families, my girlfriends are my greatest blessing. I don’t tell them that as often as I should. I don’t “shower” them with thoughtfulness as often as I should. I probably don’t even call them as often as I should. But I hope they know (and if they don’t, I’m posting it here today) that their friendship is the most precious gift they could give me.

[Katy has officially reached the sappy, hormonal phase of pregnancy.]

I’m all doped up on estrogen, y’all.

Okay, assuming I don’t go into labor within the next day or so, I plan to publish the rest of our family photos this week. These are the photos we had taken in our hometown by my childhood friend Bethany Corvos of Little Peach Studio. We’re so pleased, and they’re exactly what we want to have printed for our house so Averi will quit asking, “Is that a picture of me? What about that one? Is that me? Are there ANY pictures of me?” That actually happened this week.

Middle child syndrome has officially begun. 

Okay, I can’t help it. Here’s a sneak peek of the photos because I’m incredibly impatient.

With a Little Help from My Girlfriends

Let’s just add impatience to earlier my list of virtues.

With a Little Help from My Girlfriends

Impatience is also what drives me to pace—okay, waddle—around the house and call my mom every time I feel the slightest twitch of movement that may seem like a labor pain.

That also happened this week. 


Comments to "With a Little Help from My Girlfriends"

  1. G-Man

    March 10, 2015


    Great blog. Next time you don’t want me to Google something, write it BEFORE you write what it is you don’t want me to Google. Ugh! 😉

    Love you.

  2. LaLa

    March 10, 2015

    I’m so sad I left before that cute picture was taken! And I’m so thankful we all had the time of laughter and fellowship together. I am thankful for girlfriends too and it was an encouragement to me. We can’t wait to meet baby Morgan # 3!

    • Katy in a Corner

      March 13, 2015

      I was so bummed! I thought to take this photo 3.5 seconds after you walked out the door. Next time, sweet friend. Love you!

  3. Monica

    March 10, 2015

    I have never met you, but I’m so excited for the birth of this precious one. What a sweet gift your girlfriends gave you by being there for you. Your baby will be so blessed with love.

    Now hurry up and have him/her so we can welcome Doggy or Kitty Cat.

    • Katy in a Corner

      March 13, 2015

      How sweet of you, Monica! There are a few bloggers I follow whom I have never met, and I love to read their childbirth stories. There’s nothing quite like welcoming a new little one into the world. I hope to have a fun story to share VERY SOON!

  4. Katy's Mama

    March 11, 2015

    Love the pictures! Can’t wait for that little one to get here.

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